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Falling for the person who touches you, and why it passes

It is called transference. It happens with therapists, teachers and bodyworkers, and it says nothing bad about you.

The body confuses care with romance, and it has its reasons. Many of us learned affection mixed with someone else's desire, so when a person touches you well, looks at you with time and asks for nothing back, the system has no folder to file it in except love.

It is information about what you went without, not a signal about that person. A serious space does not flirt with it: no late-night messages, no turning your openness into a two-person story. And you have nothing to be ashamed of either. You name it, you let it pass, you go back to your life.

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